When Someone You Love Dies,There Is No Such Thing as Moving On | Kelley Lynn | TEDxAdelphiUniversity

Her proudest accomplishment continues to be when she was blocked on Twitter by President Donald Trump. Lynn has a B.F.A. in Theatre from Adelphi University, where she went on to teach courses in acting and stand-up comedy for the past 16 years. You can see more of her work at ripthelifeiknew.com.

Stand-up comedian, actor and writer Kelley Lynn has performed in the same lineups with Amy Schumer, Jim Gaffigan and Elayne Boosler. Lynn is probably best known for her comedy videos on YouTube; her most recent video, “I’ve McFallen,” has been viewed over 50 million times worldwide. She’s also known for her scathingly funny TV reviews of shows like “The Bachelor” and “Dancing with the Stars.” The latter show’s host, Tom Bergeron, tweeted that Lynn was “witty and wonderfully snarky.”

Lynn is also a regular presenter at the “Soaring Spirits International” annual events called “Camp Widow,” a three-day conference held in the U.S. and Canada for widowed men and women. She is currently writing her first book, My Husband Is Not a Rainbow: The Brutally Awful, Hilarious Truth About Life, Love, Grief, and Loss, with a tentative release date of winter 2017. Her proudest accomplishment continues to be when she was blocked on Twitter by President Donald Trump. Lynn has a B.F.A. in Theatre from Adelphi University, where she went on to teach courses in acting and stand-up comedy for the past 16 years. You can see more of her work at ripthelifeiknew.com.

Follow Kelley at @kelleyiskelley

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43 thoughts on “When Someone You Love Dies,There Is No Such Thing as Moving On | Kelley Lynn | TEDxAdelphiUniversity

  1. I lost my Mother two weeks ago. I am in tremendous sorrow and pain from this. I’m not sure that anyone understands exactly what I’m experiencing. Her death was unexpected which weighs so heavy on my heart. She lost her mom even younger than me and still experienced the pain from that. I don’t know what to do, but I’ll never forget my Mother and the memories we shared. We had plans. This really hurts.

  2. Today is officially a month since my mom died of cancer. It was like any other day, beautiful outside, I was doing my laundry for work the next day, and I fed our cats. I didn’t think to check on her. Three hours later, my dad walks in my room and tells me he thinks my mom might have passed. We feel her forehead and she’s cold. But her body was warm, as she was tucked in her blankets. Her eyes were squeezed shut, like she was sleeping hard. We were just glad she passed peacefully in her sleep. Rest in peace, Momma. I love you.

  3. My mother passed away 3-weeks ago and I felt helpless: like a little child all over again. I’m my mother’s only child. My dad called me today and I instantly broke down. I miss my mama. Lord please help me get through this. Please pray for me. Thank you.

  4. I will say this, we don't die, i have been blessed from a small child and have seen spirits you call ghosts from a small child, and have them full blown, like having a ordinary person in the room, and yes they can become solid and touch just like you! I am not afraid of dieing, you are more powerful than you can imagine! We have been living a lie.

  5. Death is scary I'm scared to die I lost a love one 4 years ago my grandfather. Even though it's been awhile I will never forget him and I love him. And when someone who says move on you can't just do that you move with them. I'm still crying to this day about my grandfathers death.And a lot of times I think why did u have to leave me but I also think. They left for a reason and I think my grandfather died for a reason but who knows why. Too all the other people whos loved ones has passed don't move on move with them~amen~🙏 I love and miss u pap

  6. My mum passed away 10 years ago when I was 19. My only sister passed away last year. The pain is intense and indescribable to say the least. I’m grateful I came across this talk. It can be such a lonely journey.

  7. Lost my father yesterday, he was an amazing man who made my life worth living… I can imagine ever letting go of his memory, no matter how painful remembering him will be from today…

  8. My brother died in my arms in feb 2017. He had a rare form of cancer, diagnosed too late. He was my other half. It's been 18 months. On the outside I'm ok, in the inside, half of me has gone. My best friend, my goofy silly brother. Gone.

  9. My little cousin died a mounth ago. She was like s Sister to me. I loved her so much, I still do. today I cryed so hard I thought I would die 💔 Thank you for this video. God bless you.

  10. I'm in so much pain, I am alone and it doesn't feel good. It's only the second night but everything is moving so slow. And I'm afraid to sleep. Why does this happen? I feel like doing nothing. I had plans, but I really don't care anymore. I want her legacy to live on though, no one loved por por more than me. I don't even feel good writing this.

  11. People advice letting go and moving on as if its so easy. I lost my boyfriend 4month ago. Ever since i choose to isolate myself from people because i felt a bitter spot within me, the only people i was close with was my family and his family. At a spot i stopped posting his picture because of the reaction i ger after putting it up. Its so not easy but healing is still taking place. But letting go and moving on is so not easy people consoling and advising need to know that.

  12. My mom passed away 2 months ago, she passed away in her peaceful sleep, what i could say til this night i still felt so loss. i miss her, i never ever could tell her how I love her, how i cherish her as my mom and beg for an apologizes of all the broken and bad things i’d tell her before 🙁 Im so overwhemed but should carry on, she is in peace now, but me… i will always cherish and miss her 🙁

    Godbless my mom

  13. I lost my father, We missed and love him so much, it's been 4 years but still it seems like just yesterday he left us, You will be forever in our hearts, We love you (Ta) Suliasi Volatabu Radike, Thank you dad for everything, We are so blessed to have a father like you, Love you always Dad ❤💖

  14. This really meant so much to me! This is why I don’t talk about my sister who passed TWO months ago. So many important points discussed here, starting with the feeling of fear. I couldn’t put a word on the way I’ve been feeling, but THAT is what it is, it’s fear. Thank you for this ted talk. Sharing this on my page thank you 🙏🏽

  15. This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing. My dad passed away from liver cancer just over a month ago. In the same vein as your message, I am leaving my job in the fire department to become a social worker for those battling cancer, and their loved ones. It is the best way that I can think to honor his memory and to not let his suffering and death be in vain.

  16. So so damn true Mam, I lost my mom with no symptoms😞, doctor said massive attack, I was damn close with her, I cannot forget her, when I talk about her with people I get the same words in return "past is past just move on" I feel depressed and my life has totally changed after loosing her. No one there to care, I have taken all her responsibilities towards my brother and dad but no one there for me, I am emotionally broken, word by word uttered by you is 100 percent correct, as people keep saying that I stopped talking about my mom in front of them because they don't value it. I Keep searching online something or the other like your video to keep myself alive.

  17. I'm sorry, but I can't understand how someone can marry after losing their spouse, especially if the deceased one was the "love of their life". I lost my husband last year, and am still struggling, but I will never marry anyone else. He was my One and always will be. We have too great a story. Also, people are telling me it's time to take my wedding ring off…that comes off the day I join him on the other side.

  18. You are so right.
    I loved Jesus way after He died on the cross and I still love Him. 2 weeks before my father died, He told me to read Matthew. I read it 2 months later and found " Our Father, who art in Heaven". It's hard to forget a loved one, reminders are everywhere. God is love, Love is life.

  19. Losing a loved one is the most painful agony you will ever feel. You learned to live with it with prayer, support and supplication but you never get over it. You never forget those last moments you spent with them and replay it in your mind over and over again. I still think about the last time I saw my dad on Good Friday in 1999. He died that Easter Sunday unexpectedly, though, he had some health problems. Oh if I could have that time with him again, I would tell him how much we loved him and what he meant to us. The first time that I experienced grief was when I was 7 and lost my paternal grandmother. She was my heartbeat and I still feel the pain today. I saw her take her last breath. It took me months to be able to move on. That was the worse pain that I've ever experienced. Death is inevitable and truly comes as a thief in the night. The best advice I can give is to love people as if you will never see them again because you may not in this world.

  20. I miss my brother. Wasif Ishaq… 5/27/1980 – Nov. 16, 2007. Thinking about you and miss you. The most amazing guy I ever knew (blessed he was My brother ❤) for he taught me unconditional love for family and those you call family.

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