Getting Free Of Self-Importance Is The Key To Happiness: Polly Young-Eisendrath at TEDxMiddlebury

At TEDxMiddlebury 2013 Polly Young-Eisendrath discusses the idea that we can control and manage our lives as counter to our happiness. After considering the true meaning of happiness, Polly highlights several uniquely human emotionsβ€”shame, guilt, envy, and jealousyβ€”that pose as obstacles to this happiness and offers solutions to overcome these emotions.

Polly Young-Eisendrath is a speaker, writer, Jungian analyst and mindfulness teacher. She is a long-time practitioner of Zen Buddhism and Vipassana in the tradition of Shinzen Young (in which she is a certified teacher). She has published many chapters and articles on Buddhism, psychotherapy, spirituality, resilience and Jung’s psychology. She is also Clinical Associate Professor of Psychiatry at the University of Vermont and in independent clinical practice in central Vermont. Her 14 published books have been translated into more than 20 languages, including “The Self-Esteem Trap,” “The Resilient Spirit,” “Women and Desire,” and “The Cambridge Companion to Jung.” Polly is working on a spiritual memoir called “Love Broken Open.”

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44 thoughts on “Getting Free Of Self-Importance Is The Key To Happiness: Polly Young-Eisendrath at TEDxMiddlebury

  1. The entire modern, western education seems to be based on uniqueness, where personal identity in the form of ego takes centre stage and sense self-importance deemed to be a virtue.

  2. I love this message of focusing on others and not self. In my work with others and in my own life, I focus tremendously on self-concept and self-esteem…I believe that our sense of self is at the center of everything. But my beliefs and Polly's message align, I believe, wherein understanding my own sense of self (self-awareness) is what frees me to not be concerned with myself. The idea that I accept myself exactly as I am, with all my flaws, enables me to focus my energy on others. When "I'm ok" – it stops being about me, and that is where joy is born. Excellent message.

  3. This just reminds me of the childlike happiness and wonder I felt while I was on psilocybin mushrooms. All of my anxieties just melted away because I was so enamoured with the nature around me. I was splashing in water, squishing my feet in clay, picking the glass and litter out of the creek with my friends. Nothing mattered and I really didn't care what people thought of me and I definitely did not feel self-absorbed and anxious as I usually do. My emotions just swung from left to right, moments of extreme energy to moments of silence and reflection, occasionally moments of extreme emotion that made me want to cry. I wonder if that's how a child feels. I would recommend shrooms when you are in a good mindset to find clarity in your life because I sure did.

  4. Also, I would like to add that I think Polly Young-Eisendrath offers wisdom and learning through her great inner learni8ng experiences as well as her studies. There are not any 'sign up with me' deals advertised here. Therefore, I think she's in it for the sharing of wisdom, ie.for the good of mankind!! THANK YOU SO MUCH Polly Young-Eisendrath!!

  5. Remember when we just followed Christs lessons. Of course we felt no shame…as He had forgiven us. Of course we were humble… as Jesus was & He commanded us to be servants of others.Knowing God loves us unconditionally gave us purpose & joy. He taught us whatsoever we do for the least of our brothers, that we do unto Him. Read the sermon on the mount….better than any TED talk.

  6. I actually wish that people who write negative comments under other people's openly shared ideas would ask themselves what is realistically driving them to push a spike into another person's tyre. The desire to criticise must be motivated somehow… To me it looks like a supreme sign of us exhibiting our own superiority.

  7. β€œYou can choose to fight your journey every step of the way.

    Or you can embrace it, recognizing each stumble or setback as an opportunity to strengthen your character, finesse your craft, and deepen your passion.

    This journey can be beautiful, if only you allow yourself to enjoy the rain!”

  8. She talks about letting go of control to be happy. Like just "BE", man…. but she's scared to say how old she is. WTF, lady. You can't control your age.

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  10. Go for a walk in your bare soles and stride with happiness. If it does not work….Then run bare sole until you can run no more and then begin dancing and chanting. If this does not bring you happiness in the moment. The go home, get in bed, pull the shit up over your head and die.
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  11. strange I felt like watching this was almost like reading a resume. For someone trying to teach about the selfless, she spends more of the presentation than I'd like referring to herself than was necessary.

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